Thursday, February 3, 2011

Is Training Destroying Your Home Life?

A little bit of housekeeping before I move onto the heavy and insightful stuff that will change your life.

Remember the anagram contest? You guys killed me. They were all really, really funny. But, the top five were:

  1. Paula at Eat Watch Run: Anal Per Hour (eww. I guess you find this type of thing in the red light district. Paula said she wished she had known her anagram before she named her blog. Who wouldn’t visit a blog called Anal Per Hour?)
  2. Stephanie at Thorns Have Roses: Hate Penis (to which she said, “What?? Liars!”)
  3. Dog at See Dog Run: Anal Dick Trends (can’t pretend to know what this means, but sounds quite gay).
  4. Twila at Twila Keeps Runnings: Ten Orgy Mom (dang, she’s busy)
  5. Julie at ROJ Running : Juicier Slut (she said, “Now I know my code name and undergrad makes more sense.)

Email me (shutuprun@gmail.com) your addresses so I can send out some stickers!DSCF0182

Update: My one eyed, three legged dog Lucky who has a perpetual boner (you can see the tip in the picture) never leaves my side. As I blog, he lays at my feet. I am, therefore, very in tune with his bodily functions. My question is, why when dogs fart do they 1) look around as if to say, “who did it?” 2) immediately stick their nose into the butt to check it out? Or, maybe it’s just my dog. Perhaps if we humans were a bit more flexible we would do the same thing.  Don’t even get me started on dogs licking other parts and what humans wish they could do.

Moving on. An interesting and very relevant topic came up in the Wall Street Journal on Monday. In an article entitled, “A Workout Ate My Marriage,” the writer broaches the subject of endurance training and how it has been shown to negatively affect relationships.

Enter the term, “exercise widow/widower.”

Couple’s therapists have found that, “commitment weakens as alternatives increase,” meaning that as one person starts to find outside stimulus/activities/relationships, this can compromise the strength of the relationship.

While the article primarily focuses on the marital system, the affect is certainly felt throughout the entire family if children are in the picture.

Here’s what I think. Your home life doesn’t have to fall apart just because you want to train for an endurance event. You do, however, have to follow some rules.

  1. The exception: If you are planning on training for a full Ironman, forget it. Get a divorce now, set up your child support and sublet a room above a gas station.
  2. Be careful if you’re on the rocks. Does your relationship already kind of suck? Probably not a good time to start heavy training unless you are trying to find a way to mess things up so badly that a breakup will be easy.
  3. Prepare everyone. Provided that things are relatively good at home, bring up your goals openly and honestly. Don’t blindside your family by walking in the door and exclaiming, “I am going to train for a marathon, join a running group with lots of fit and attractive people and be gone ten hours per week.” This screams, “I am having an affair!” or at best, “I didn’t care about you enough to make you part of this decision.”
  4. Bring him/her on board. Try to talk your spouse/significant other into doing your event with you. This is what Ken and I do. Once I started running marathons, he started running halfs, so we could do a bit of our training together. Now he’s training for his first marathon and I sit on the couch injured and cry as he goes out for his runs and make him feel guilty. That is very good for our relationship. Luckily, we both signed up for the same half Ironman in August. Our kids might be orphaned, but at least we will still be together and in shape.
  5. Don’t check out completely. Your spouse/kids will be making lots of sacrifices during your training, mostly because you will be gone a lot and when you’re finally home you will be tired, sore, hungry and irritable. So, when you are around do your best to fake it. Don’t check out on your kids and significant other. Also, try to plan your workouts at really inconvenient and sucky times for you, because these will probably be the best times for your family. For example, do your long runs starting at 4:00 a.m. or 10 p.m. so no one even knows your gone.

How do you keep your training from wreaking havoc on your family life/relationship?

Has your training ever caused significant conflict at home?

What’s your best tip for keeping it all balanced?

And, if you have done a full IM, how the hell did you pull that off?

Hoping to never be a widow,

SUAR

59 comments:

  1. I just work around my home schedule...if I have to run at 5am cause somebody has to be somewhere...I do it. On my off days, I do laundry to help....and I do most of the cooking in the house, I make meals before I go running if possible...it's all about give and take!

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  2. I spit out my water during this post. You never cease to crack me up.

    As for training and relating, thankfully Spike trains as well so it makes life easy in that we both "get" what the other is doing/going through. We're both pretty much exhausted and starving at any given time so going to bed at 9pm after consuming lots of carbs doesn't cause either of us to blink an eye. The only thing training really wrecks for us is the energy to get sexy. There's been times where we've looked at each other and been like I want to... I'm just too tired. LOL!

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  3. I don't know if I could justify the time investment if it was just for something I wanted to do. Fortunately, my hubby and I have ran every full (4 in the past year) and every half together. We have 3 kids, one rides in a jogger stroller (even on the 24 milers) and the other 2 ride their bikes. Sometimes we run on the hubby's lunch break while the oldest 2 are in school....but in general, its a family affair. The oldest 2 run the 5k's or kids runs at whatever event we are doing and love running as much as the hubby and I do. Keeps us close,as a couple, and as a family, and working together to achieve a goal. That's what works for us! I know it would drive some people nuts : )

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  4. love this.

    loved the dog fart comment my little fluffy maltese kept "fluffing" last night.
    so
    freaking
    gross.

    and yes, his "lipstick" was out the whole time.

    my running KEEPS my marriage way "sane-r" [yep, that's perfect grammar].

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  5. I have two little kids, and they are harder on the marriage than my marathon plans. But really, and I think most married runners and athletes would agree with me,I couldn't do this without the full support and help of my partner. There is just no way to get the miles in without a support network. I am of the opinion that we need a third spouse in the marriage. Husband insists that it be a hot (female) bikini model who cooks really well. I would settle for a gay dude named Nikos who cooks really well. At least I could enjoy that view, right?

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  6. Luckily both hubs and I train for endurance events so we really never have encountered a problem. We probably could do better in balancing it with the kids. Well mostly him, he works then runs etc, then falls asleep! LOL He TRIES to do stuff with them on the weekend but we have long run, etc.. It's hard.

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  7. Well, it's hard some times. I just try to balance my time with everyone. Glad you addressed this issue. It is hard reading so many blogs where people just "go"....although I wouldn't trade my life for anything, sometimes it is just difficult to be the runner, wife and mother than I want to be...or at least the one I think I could be!

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  8. Since I don't want to get up really early to run since it's winter, this isn't too much of an issue. I am a SAHM and so I take the girls with me to the gym and they stay in childcare while I run on the TM. I am only running outside once a week until Spring, than I will go out more, probably earlier as it gets warmer. My husband is totally supportive of what I am doing and is ok with me going out to run.

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  9. When I was marathon training I was basically sleeping, at work, or running. I require a TON of sleep. It was killing weekends with my husband, since that's when I'd do my long run. He got sad that he never saw me, and told me so. Because of this (and because I'm lazy), I might not do another marathon. Or I might schedule my long run during the week. We'll see.

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  10. um, my dog does 1 & 2. that's all i've got.

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  11. My husband is a recruiting coordinator/coach and travels A LOT, so running has turned into something of a social activity for me since he is gone. And, getting him to train for our first half mary helped us both!

    Your dog fart observation is so accurate-Cooper scares himself at times.

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  12. Here's where hubs and I are lucky since we are bothing training/running maniacs! But the house work suffers, let me tell you...

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  13. We both run so we both get it. Colin runs on his own at night because he's a guy and he can - he ran at 10pm last night... I'm not allowed since it makes him nervous, which I understand. That said, it's tough with having a toddler. I hate taking the stroller, but will once or twice a week. He can't anymore since it aggravates his IT (lucky coincidence). "Extra curriculars" have been sacrificed on multiple occasions, but I think we're both mostly okay with that...

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  14. Gee, I did Ironman Canada in Aug 2010, and was married before, during, and after, all to the same person. But then I maxed out at only 20 hours / week of training. My jobs during training peak (I had two different ones) gave me flexible hours. I always dropped her off at work in the morning, then got on with whatever my day was.

    I of course got her input before starting the whole thing. Yes, there were some long training days, and there's been some stress, but overall she is very happy. Why? Because I'm down a huge chunk of weight, I'm in much better health, and have probably added a decade or more to my life.

    When I'm between contracts Linda doesn't see me train, or hardly ever. I get it done during the day. Supper is almost always ready to go when she gets home. Stuff is done around the house. I take one day per weekend with totally no training, and we can do whatever is on the agenda. Sometimes that's going to see friends, or doing stuff we like, or just hanging out at home.

    I've sometimes thought that lots of people train way more than they should. I know one girl that ran herself into two stress fractures of her shin bones. You can't tell me she didn't notice something wasn't right. Rest and recovery are very important, and people don't seem to take it seriously. You should work as hard at resting and recovery as you do for any other aspect of your training. That's prime time for doing things with your spouse, even if it's house stuff, or social stuff. I see people taping their schedule to their fridge and practically worshiping it. The schedule, not the fridge. It's like the schedule becomes more important than work, family, or social life. That's bullshit!

    Of course there are always adjustments to be made. Spousie brings up something big and gives you some notice, then adjust the schedule. But Spousie also needs to understand that some trivial chore should not be bumping a planned workout. Everybody needs to have a sense of proportion about it.

    I'm child free, so my only advice about kids involves two words. Duct tape. I'm amazed that anyone, especially moms, gets any training when there are kids around. My house is on a piece of road that is a natural for a number of loops of various distances. I see a ton of people running with strollers. I see people running with their kids on a bike. Involve the kids; it can be done.

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  15. My post for tomorrow is sorta on this topic.

    While I understand the need for balance and having a time for everything. I do not understand that people find it okay to make time in their lives for cleaning, manicures, master degrees, homework, or painting the house but when a person takes time for fitness/exercise it considered taking time away from the family. Since when does a person not get any of their own life to work on themselves? I think people are just really screwed up. And since I am on the topic, this whole "commitment weakens as alternatives increase" is just another way of saying that the two people in the relationship need to be dependant on eachother for the relationship to exist. Really? I thought I was to want my partner not need him. Independance is part of what I found attractive in my husband, am I the only one?

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  16. Jade is almost 8 and a Great Dane. That in itself tells the tale of gas around here. She just let's 'em rip and doesn't care who knows it.

    Jinx is 2 and also a Great Dane. He farts, audibly most often, and then turns around and stares at his hind area for at least 10 seconds (that's like, a year in dog) trying to figure out what the hell just happened. I can only shake my head...

    Regarding training, I often feel guilty when I'm gone for long runs on the weekend, but my husband never makes me feel that way, so I just need to get over it. I'm lucky to have a spouse that is into weightlifting so he "gets" having a passion about something exercise-related.

    Luck and Jinx should get together for a romp outside.

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  17. Great questions. My husband and I also train together. He is doing the half marathon plan in my brain training for runners book and i'm doing the marathon. But we are training for a few of the same races in between. He works out at his lunch hour and I go after dinner when he is home. This is hard on him sometimes after a long day at work but he knows it is important to me and so do the kids. It takes so much time. It is important for my kids to see me working towards a goal though.

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  18. I read that article a couple of days ago and thought alot about it too. Before kids my husband and I used to workout together alot (he's never been a runner but we would go to the gym together almost every night). Once we started having kids I got much more into running. I have a really nice double jogger so if I haven't got my run in that day I will often take one or both of the kids with me so my husband doesn't feel like he is getting left with both the kids when he just got home from work. I also do a lot of my runs at the awful early, dark hour of 4:30am. That disturbs no one and everyone is happy (Even me once I get my butt out of bed). On the weekends when I do my longer runs I will either get up early and be home before the kids get up so my husband can sleep in a bit or bring the kids with me. I do everything I can not to make my husband regret my running so he will let me keep doing it. It seems to workout nicely. However I am pregnant with #3 so somethings are going to have to change next year (mainly probably me having to get up early alot more often since I don't have a triple jogger:)). Good question Beth!

    Your dog cracks me up!

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  19. I train before anyone's up or sometimes when everyone is gone. Travelling to races is the only sticking point at times.

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  20. I'm lucky enough to work from home as many of you are. I run after they go to school. But I have to admit, it takes a lot of balance to meet my goals and their needs.

    If I take any spare minutes farting around (that's for the dog) then it's all shot - either my running suffers, my work suffers, or my family suffers.

    Of course, this 'balance' I speak of is a very tippy balance. I am flexible and my goals directly benefit my family - staying sane (for the kids) and staying fit (for the bedroom). *wink*

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  21. I've posted on a few others that I have seen several marriages fall apart via triathlon. The athlete just gets it all out of balance. You're so on with your "rules" there.

    At my house we have to balance the fact that we both prefer the early a.m. for workouts. So, we have a set schedule for who gets those earlier days. Lucky for me, Mr. Zippy is content with only working out about 4 days/week, and I can shift some of my workouts to after the kids get in school each day. And I did do an Ironman way back when, but it was before kids. Mr. Z. trained along with me for much of the bike portion, so that was cool. CAN NOT imagine trying to do it now and think that I could keep the balance in my family life.

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  22. You know the whole "are you having an affair" thing totally came up when I joined roller derby. yes I know this is a running blog, but I run for cross training and roller derby is an all consuming sport much like marathon training! We went through a 6 month period where my man would waiver from "happy you've found a sport" to "who are really seeing at practices?". It sucked but we negotiated, I stuck to my guns and eventually pure persistence won out. i mean really? who the hell has time for an affair when you're skating 4-5 days a week and cross training most other days?! But it worked out and he got a trimmer wife out of the deal. now I train mostly during the day when he's at work and I have some time with treadmill while the kids watch cartoons. Ah marital bliss!

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  23. My dog does those exact things! Half the time it grosses me out but it's pretty funny, too.

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  24. My dog sits at my feet and farts so bad but doesn't move around or do anything. Just blasts it and essentially says...take that dad.

    For me I get up at the crack of dawn and train and get back before they head off for school or work and it's like I was just there the entire time.

    I suggest getting them excited about race day and all the work you put into it so when that day comes they can see that their sacrifice has paid off as well.

    I give Chico the medal at the events he attends. I also thank Karen immediately when I am done so that she knows that I was thinking of her.

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  25. I can't wait to read all the other comments so that I can get some tips. Weekdays I am a single mom since the hubs is out of town a lot so I get to hit the treadmill post bedtime. I can not stand to take any time away from my son during the weekday. On the weekend I do my long run sorta early Saturday morning so my husband can get some quality dad time with my son. My husband does get annoyed with my running but after many heart to heart talks he has realized how much my new love of running means to me. I also run alone so there is no other person to be jealous of.

    I have respect for those people who get up in the wee hours of the morning to work out. I will never have that discipline!

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  26. In training for a full IM just keep your cell phone with you. I had to take some calls while on the trail. "yes, I'm still out here, yes, I know I've already been out for 8 hours, yes I will still have energy to go the dinner with your friends, yadda, yadda , yadda" I'm no longer in that relationship. But in my new relationship we are training for a marathon together. So if endurance sports is a huge part of your life find someone who agrees or lay the ground rules up front!

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  27. Luckily the bf and I are both obsessed with training/racing, but sometimes we both want to do different races the same weekend which causes a major issue since we a) both want to race and b) both want to support the other.

    So, this time around, before we've been registering for races we've been trying our best to run a race by the other person first. It worked out great! Our goal fall marathons are back to back weekends so we can easily race and support the other person without it messing up our training... and our relationship.

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  28. HA! I love this post. My sig other puts dirtbikes in the kitchen and leaves for weeks at a time so he can't say ANYTHING about me leaving for a few hours now and then...

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  29. PS - Beth! Did you see what your bff is doing next? http://dean.runnersworld.com/2011/02/call-to-action.html?cm_mmc=Facebook-_-RunnersWorld-_-Content-Blog-_-DeansRunACrossAmerica

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  30. This is why I get up at 0430 and drag my butt to the gym. So that I'm home in the evenings, even if I'm so tired that I nod off during television. Or reading. Or whatever! :)

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  31. Marry a long distance triathlete as well, just training for a marathon only doesn't seem like as much! That's our secrete. I had enough of IM since 2005 but still race the half's while he does the full's and I run marathons. So much easier to throw the shoes on and head out the door. We have one son, so it necessitates me getting up at 4 am tomorrow but it's worth it and it all works out.

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  32. I'm with Kovas. I usually do my training before everyone is up but the actual race day takes away time from the family.

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  33. When training for the Chicago Marathon I did my weekday runs at 4am before my husband was even awake. For my long runs on Sunday he rode his bike next to me every single time!! How lucky am was I? He has told me though he would be my sherpa for only one marathon, then I'm on my own.

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  34. Oh, I needed this post today! My husband and I just had this fight/conversation earlier this week! He is starting to get into running and I have been a real bitch about sharing my training/girl time. These are some great points you make! As we both plan for the Chicago Marathon (signed up Tuesday!) I will try to include him more and give him a little extra "play time" to keep him happy!

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  35. I would prefer this problem to "livingnwith an alcoholic is ruining my marriage".

    ps, I had a Weimamraner and a German shorthaired pointer and neither of them farted. I remember maybe twice each in 10 years. Weird right?

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  36. Well, you gotta be supportive of each other. I like to join my hubs on his recovery runs. Or a swim from time to time. I appreciate those times together. But I'm thinking it all might change when we have kids.....in the far far future!!!
    ;)
    LC

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  37. I have a boston terrier who can clear a room. It never phases him.

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  38. Yeah, running has been the root cause of many an argument in our marriage. (Apparently, not all families arrange their vacations around running races! And some husbands are really offended when you use the treadmill beside the bed at midnight or spend 2 hours running on Saturday instead of hanging out with him. Weird, right?!)

    And I'm not even a serious trainer. Luckily, my husband has started running some and that has helped. I just need him to catch the racing bug now.

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  39. Totally went through all of that with my husband, who was a semi-pro cyclist when we met and I was training for my first marathon. First year of marriage was awesome. We did our long workouts on the weekends, took recovery naps together, stuffed our faces with whatever we wanted to eat or drink. But when kids came along, things quickly deteriorated because his 4-7 hour weekend bike rides continued, and so did his recovery for the rest of those days. It was difficult. He stuck with his "commitment to the team" and did very little to help out with our 2 kids or any house duties b/c he was so spent from training. I was working full time and coming apart at the seams. It took lots of marriage counseling to get through that phase. So I do agree that there's nothing wrong with your spouse doing good things for him/herself. But they have to put in some effort at home, especially if kids are involved.

    After 10 years of marriage, I'm finally ramping up to do marathons again. But, like others bloggers here, I work from home and both kids are in school so I have the luxury of training during the week. If I had an office job, I honestly don't know how I would do it. I am not a morning person!

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  40. I my case, I get less sleep than everyone in my family so I can train in the early morning while they are sleeping. I have the whole evening for family time (usually). Plus, marathons are a family event.

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  41. I asked hubby, "Did my workouts eat our marriage?" He said, "No, but you ate my dinner." And then I realized I had. Darn. Our leftovers looked so much alike.

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  42. Since I'm commitment phobic I guess I don't have to worry about that stuff.

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  43. I have no qualms getting up at 3am to go for a run....but that's cuz it's too hot at 7am to run. That's a pretty big committment. :)

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  44. Probably why I have only run 1 marathon and not too many races. Not that the husband and kids aren't supportive, they are but there are other things that take priority like kids football, soccer, etc. Now I'm trying to do more for "me" but it comes when older kids are at school and the littlest is napping. I figure she will be in school soon enough then I'll have all the time in the world to do this stuff right? For now it's just a few races a year and they are usually geared for families.

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  45. i'm gonna be honest here, i would never not marry a runner. there, i said it. I've been running since i was a kid, that is a HUGE part of my life and not something i am willing to give-up/change. So i turned my current boyfriend at the time into a runner starting with a 5k and then 5 years later he ran his first marathon (where he proposed) and now 7 marathons later he is hooked. *evil laugh*

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  46. and did i mention we are running an ultra-marathon and a marathon on our honeymoon? I get both my loves at the same time! :-)

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  47. Well, I haven't YET done an IM, but I plan to this year. I have 4 kids and homeschool 3 of them. First, we live in a very low COL area and I work from home and DH is a SAHD. I do all my cycling with DH. I do my swimming with the 14yo. I do some of my running with the girls (they walk the dog, I run). We're all going away this weekend to Merida so DH and I can ride the 2nd stage of a 5-stage bike event.

    I don't know how this will all workout down the road, but so far for us, it is a family affair.

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  48. Well this is a real issue that I struggle with. Three kids, full-time office job, non-runner husband, and marathon training don't always work together so well. But before signing up for a race, be it full or half, I always clear it with my husband. He's my partner and he deserves to have some say in whether or not I participate in something that will eat up several hours of my time every week. I would not do it if he wasn't 100-percent on-board with it. That's not to say that once he agrees to me training for yet another race, that he stays completely happy and supportive about it for the whole 18 weeks of training. We definitely have our ups and downs about the whole thing. He's a good man though and he tries hard to stay very positive about the training, which let's face it DOES inconvenience him and the kids at times and cause scheduling problems. Signing up for a marathon is definitely not a decision to take lightly. What helps me is to schedule as many of my runs as possible when everyone in the house is still asleep. It's hard to do this and it isn't always ideal for me, but everything is not always about me [unfortunately -- haha].

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  49. As someone who is still newer to running and training - it hit me totally out of the blue, how much marathon training could seep into affecting time with the family. DUH. i know it requires time but former fat people (like myself) think we deserve an f'in medal for just moving our fat a$$es at all - never does it occur to us that the very thing we avoided for most of our lives (ahem- physical movement) could now be a problem b/c we are doing it too much!!

    Sigh, read this article and blogged about it too… Will figure out balance… somewhere around mile 13 during my long run this weekend ;)

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  50. i have every intention of doing a full Ironman next year...thankfully i have an awesome husband who is very supportive.

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  51. R is pretty supportive, but I do feel guilt between being gone for runs, gone for work, gone for this and that, Gone, Baby Gone!
    I just try to really focus on some quality time when we are together. I put aside many of my interests for about twenty years, and now I'm taking the time for me.

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  52. My husband does not train for anything, in fact he's the farthest thing from an athlete that I can think of, but he's supportive of me no matter what insane event I decide to do. Having said that the most important things in my life are 1-God 2-My husband and kids 3-leading a healthy lifestyle. I don't think extreme anything is healthy. I do get up at 4am Monday-Friday to workout and run. I do take 2-3 hours on Saturday for a long run or workout. Sundays are family days..no gym, no running, no workout at home....just Church and Family. These things may sound lame to some people, but they work for me and keep things in balance.

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  53. We meet EVERY morning in the livingroom for a 1 hour talk over coffee..

    Conflict..MMM..Hell YES! I want sex he wants to sleep..I want to sleep he want sex! I want food he has to run, I'm running he is eating PIZZA! REALLY!!!

    Balance comes by our communication..talk it over..What our our goals..At the end of the day if we are not having fun then we need to change something!

    Bill did AZ Ironman Nov 2010..We committed as a family and went at it together! It was a long year of training and at the end he finished tired but I was EXHAUSTED! LOL! We were both glad it was over!

    Back to SEX and eating Pizza together!

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  54. I've honestly been struggling a bit with balance. between a new project at work, A new baby at home, and now working in phoenix - I feel like I have been pulled in about 1000 directions. I'm holding on, but only by a string.

    thankfully, I don't have the IM bug yet. I'm not sure I can afford the child support

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  55. If it weren't for my double jogging stroller I never would have completed my first marathon. I once did 12 miles, in the rain (rain cover), pushing two kids. I am a bad ass.

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  56. I run during my lunch break at work and only do long runs on the weekends.

    Keeping in mind that "endurance" is relative. For me, endurance training has never been more than a half marathon (and I only do 2 of those a year!).

    IM and the full marathon is *way* outta my league right now!

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  57. I try to involve the fam as much as possible with the fun positive stuff. My kids love making signs for me and my oldest rode his bike along side me while I trained for my first marathon. We had priceless conversations.
    I don't know how anyone has time to do an IM.

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  58. My Name is paul.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our wedding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from engage to Single…when i went to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..I lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life…I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job…he told me he gonna help me…i don’t believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to Germany the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he’s busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday.My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she’s doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my my girl friend called and he said i haven’t seen anything yet… he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume work on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit i have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with a baby boy and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to
    priest_gbenga.magic_temple@priest.com, I cant give out his number cos he told me he don’t want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he also have a web site if you want to visit him there’ he will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck. his web site is http://www.priestgbengamagicpalace.webs.com

    PAUL MULLER

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